Just now, I am sitting in a cozy cafe with beautiful humming background noise from conversations across the neighboring tables, gentle background music while listening to my own Spotify playlist called “melancholic”.
Yesterday, I thought my biggest weakness was, that I am usually late. Even, when I am 15min early as on Thursday (yes, I can even specify the date so rare it is!) going to a workshop for entrepreneurs, I decided to use the time to find a coffee-shop nearby to get me a chai latte. Result? 5min late. At least not 15min plus I got a drink 🙂
The same day I came across a wonderful scientific research (sometimes you gotta love science!) that suggests, that being late is a trait of amazing people, see the blog post from Nikola Tesla Fans. People like me, are more optimistic, likely more successful and have higher levels of enthusiasm.
So now, that we have CLEARLY established that my biggest weakness is not being late, I thought, maybe, I am weakness free?
That thought only lasted so long. 30min into the Virgin Media Startup workshop for Entrepreneurs, I introduced myself and what problem I am working on. The comment of our mentor that day: “And here is Stefanie, working on 18 things at the same time”.
That immediately triggered a known feeling in my chest and cheeks suggesting that feeling of “Great, he got me. That was fast!” embarrassment. Who could I fool? My parents already told me in my teenage age that I am living life at such a fast pace, that I probably would kill myself with a heart-attack rather sooner than later.
Since then, I have tried to work on less, do less, focus more. By the way, I also tried to be on time since my elementary school teacher, Frau Schmitt, complaint to my parents that my attitude to being on time was not ideal. Since then, my parents tried (and me too!) to wake me up earlier to have more time in the morning to get ready. Somehow, I managed to fill up every minute until I was perfectly on time: 15min later than ideal.
Coming back to the the point of doing too many things at a time: You can guess now, how successful I have been with focusing on only 1-3 projects at a time, which is by the way HIGHLY recommended: Science (again) suggests that we humans aren’t made for multitasking and can even harm our brains (see Travis Bradberry’s Article on Forbes for example).
Does this mean I am doomed?
It would not be me if I didn’t have a perfect answer (or how my parents used to say “You always have an answer to everything”, in German “A lid for every pod”):
The truth is that I am focusing on only 3 things in my life. You just have to look at it on a larger scale! Focused on Education, Health & Wellbeing and Trying new things. That’s perfectly reasonably only 3 things. :-)…..I won’t mention the multiple projects and sub-projects underneath of each of those topics. That would break the scope here.
So yes, my biggest “weakness” (funny note, I wrote by accident “focus” here! :D), is being curious and interested in so many things, that I struggle with focusing on only 1-3 aspects or projects. I have now 2 choices:
- I either try to only do 2-3 things OR
- I find new ways to effectively manage more than 3 projects.
Guess which option I am going for 🙂
P.S. The tool that I used this time to get this blog-post out the door was the 5-sec rule by Mel Robbins. Go check-it-out! I have no affiliation but this blog post is a result of applying this simple concept. Just do it!